How to Avoid Cheating
Cheating doesn’t just happen. When people make a commitment to their partner, they usually plan to keep it. If they choose to cheat or have an affair there is a reason behind their choice.
If you are tempted, but also determined to learn how to avoid cheating, you came to the right place.
Strategies to Prevent Infidelity
- Create a Safe Space to Talk Honestly: To avoid a situation where one of you is choosing to have an affair instead of being honest about your needs and desires, you will ultimately need to create a safe space where each person’s desires can be shared openly.
- Develop a Relationship Contract: Every couple has some sort of spoken or unspoken relationship contract. Many couples do not do a good job of communicating their contract so they are not aware of each other’s expectations in the relationship. Even if you are aware of the expectations you each have, we find that many couples don’t consult or update their relationship contract. (Here’s a guide on how to develop one.)
- Accept your Partner’s Desires & Needs: Instead of looking at your marriage or relationship contract as a fixed entity, you will need to accept that your needs and desires change throughout your lives. You will need to develop tools to renegotiate if some of your agreements aren’t working.
- Get Help: If you are in a long-term relationship and you have never talked about your unspoken contract, working with a relationship coach is a great opportunity to do so.
What to Expect from a Coaching Session
To avoid cheating, communication is essential. In a sex and relationship coaching session, you and your partner can have a supportive, non-judgmental, and caring conversation about yours needs and desires. You will explore how each of you feel about these desires, and learn how to effectively negotiate options when your desires are different.
You coach can also provide you with specifics about what should be included in your relationship contract, and see what is working for you and what isn’t.
This gives you the opportunity to consciously co-create a relationship that is responsive to each of your needs and boundaries. It’s thrilling to explore what your relationship is capable of giving you – and what you can do if your needs are not being met fully.
Tools To Help Avoid Cheating:
- Book a session with a Relationship Coach
- Read Making Love Real and have a desire conversation
- Take one of our Sex & Relationship Classes
