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How To Conquer Erectile Dysfunction

ByDanielle Harel

Countless men suffer from erectile dysfunction (or ED) – the inability to get or maintain an erection. While many drugs – such as Viagra and Cialis – can mask the symptoms, they do not deal with or treat the underlying causes of ED.

For many men – and the ones who have medical conditions that prohibit the use of performance-enhancing drugs – medication is not an effective solution. But there is help. That’s where Erectile Dysfunction Coaching comes in.

Treat Erectile Dysfunction Without Drugs

Frequently, men want to fix ED, but simply do not like the idea of being reliant on a drug. Drugs can indeed be one possible pathway to greater confidence, but starting with a more natural, holistic solutions should be your first step.

Sex coaches often work with men who deal with erectile dysfunction. For many of them, there are alternative solutions, especially when the root of erectile dysfunction is psychological, as opposed to physiological.

Psychological Erectile Dysfunction

One way to tell if you are dealing with psychological ED is by examining if it happens in every sexual situation.

In other words, if you feel comfortable and relaxed and have perfectly normal erections during masturbation but cannot get them with a partner, you are likely dealing with psychological ED. If you are having ED in all situations, even masturbation, make sure you get it checked out as it can be a sign of heart disease.

3 Underlying Causes of Erectile Dysfunction

Psychological ED has at least three main underlying root causes:

  • performance anxiety
  • impulse control (too much, not too little)
  • a functional response to a dysfunctional situation (a functional response is where you have very good reasons NOT to be having sex – and your penis knows better than you do)

It’s possible you are dealing with two or even all three of the underlying causes at once. And there are a lot more and differing causes, such as lack of attraction to your partner, relationship problems, or that the sex simply doesn’t thrill you. Read about the extensive causes in this comprehensive article.

How a Sex Coach Can Help You Conquer Your Erectile Dysfunction

  • Let go of performance anxiety through breath and erotically embodied relaxation
  • Follow through on your impulses
  • Turn women on so you get aroused by their sexual response
  • Allow your sexual desire to flow and your hard-on to follow that flow
  • Engage women with your whole body instead of putting so much pressure on your penis
  • Listen to the wisdom of your penis, regardless of what your big brain is telling you

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Dr. Danielle Harel is the co-creator of the Somatica® Method, and the co-founder of the Somatica Institute. As a somatic sexologist and teacher, she has devoted the last twenty years to sex coaching and empowering couples, women, men, and groups. Danielle has published original research on Orgasmic Birth, and is the co-author of three books: Confidence, Making Love Real, and Coming Together.

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