What is Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Women?

Are you a woman struggling with sex and intimacy issues? And yes, you guessed it – you’re not alone! There are millions of women just like you, and feeling just like you, out there. It doesn’t have to be this way. Luckily there is an army of deeply caring, highly-trained sex coaches out there, ready to nurture and support you in your healing journey.

But what can you expect from working with a coach? What type of stuff do they help with, exactly? And how should you go about finding a coach, and preparing for your first session? Here’s everything you need to know.

What Type of Sex and Intimacy Struggles Are Unique to Women?

Women often face a very unique set of circumstances, blocks, or issues around intimacy and sexuality. These are the most common obstacles coaches can help you overcome:

1. Low Libido
   Causes: Hormonal imbalances (e.g., menopause, pregnancy), stress, fatigue, relationship issues, medications.
   Impact: Reduced interest in sexual activity, which can strain relationships.
2. Painful Intercourse (Dyspareunia)
   Causes: Vaginal dryness, infections, endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease, or psychological factors.
   Impact: Avoidance of sex due to discomfort, leading to emotional distress.
3. Body Image Issues
   Causes: Societal pressures, self-esteem problems, postpartum body changes.
   Impact: Anxiety or discomfort during intimacy, avoiding physical closeness.
4. Difficulty with Orgasm (Anorgasmia)
   Causes: Psychological factors (e.g., anxiety, guilt), lack of proper stimulation, hormonal changes.
   Impact: Frustration, decreased satisfaction with sexual activity.
5. Sexual Trauma
   Causes: Past experiences of abuse or assault.
   Impact: Fear or avoidance of sexual activity, difficulty trusting partners, emotional distress.
6. Menopause and Changes in Sexual Desire Over Time
   Causes: Long-term relationships, menopause, life changes (e.g., motherhood, aging), stress.
   Impact: Shift in sexual dynamics, potential feelings of inadequacy or rejection.
7. Communication Barriers
   Causes: Difficulty discussing sexual preferences, desires, or issues with a partner.
   Impact: Misunderstandings, unmet needs, decreased sexual satisfaction.
8. Sexual Dysfunction Related to Health Issues
   Causes: Chronic conditions like diabetes, cardiovascular disease, or neurological disorders.
   Impact: Reduced sexual function, discomfort during sex, changes in libido.
9. Postpartum Sexual Challenges
   Causes: Physical recovery from childbirth, hormonal changes, fatigue from caregiving.
   Impact: Temporary or long-term changes in sexual desire or comfort during sex.
10. Sexual or Gender Identity Struggles
    Causes: Internal conflict regarding sexual orientation or gender identity, societal or familial pressure, fear of judgment or rejection.
    Impact: Difficulty in forming or maintaining intimate relationships, feelings of isolation or inadequacy, challenges in expressing desires or needs authentically.

These barriers to a sexually fulfilling life often intersect, with one exacerbating the other. Addressing them typically requires a holistic approach by your coach, taking into consideration all your physical, mental, and emotional circumstances.

A Sex Coach Can Teach You How To:

• Connect with your glow, feel relaxed and confident – so you attract people and relationships who are actually worth your time
• Learn to ask for what you want in a clear, loving way so he will trust you and be emotionally available
• Actively create experiences where you can surrender to your own passion and pleasure
• Discover your emotions, sexuality, and intuition as a reliable source for decision-making
• Resolve tension and resentment with your partner
• Find or reconnect with your desire and learn how to be turned on
• Move beyond body shame and embrace your sexy self, no matter what society tells you
• Create a pain-free and trauma-free sex life
• Overcome sexual dysfunction
• Learn how to orgasm
• Explore your full orgasmic potential
• Be validated as a lesbian or bisexual woman

What to Expect From Your Session

Your intimacy coach will be there to help you uncover what holds you back in your life and relationship – and support you in removing the nagging obstacles. In session, you can expect this from you coach:

• Experiential learning – practice is the only pathway to body-based learning. After all, you can’t learn to play baseball from talking or reading a book.
• Real-time feedback – honest, straightforward feedback, plus tools to improve how you come across in dating and relationships.
• Identification and transformation of unhelpful habits – help you overcome a low sex drive, teach you how to orgasm better, and address any other sexual dysfunction you might be suffering from.

How to Find Your Coach, and Prepare for Your First Session:

It’s likely important for you to find a coach who is specialized onto women, and the very particular pitfalls you’re facing. So here’s a good approach:

Step 1: Read a few more authoritative articles about what a Sex Coach, Relationship Coach or Intimacy Coach is, and what you can expect from them. Ever wonder what a sexologist does? Or how tantra could help you? These articles should answer all those questions. (You can skip this step if you feel confident that you’re ready to embark on your search right now.)

Step 2: It’s important to find a coach you can connect to on a human and personal level. A really great starting point is this comprehensive, global directory of Somatica-trained sex & relationship coaches. You’ll notice there are lots of different expertises to choose from. Base on their own life experiences and interests, most coaches actually specialize onto a specific niche, such a body image, trauma, menopause, or women’s empowerment.

Step 3: Maybe you’ll find the idea of having a female or non-binary coach is most appealing to you. Or maybe you’re looking for an LGBTGIA, trans or BIPOC coach who truly gets you. There’s a niche for that.

Step 4: Do you feel like you need to give your coach an in-person hug before and after each session? Though most coaches see clients both online (via Zoom or similar) and in-office, sometimes it’s just important to breathe the same air as the other person. This is when you want to look for a coach near you.

Step 5: Have you narrowed it down? Great. Read through some of the profiles of coaches, and pick one who really resonates with you. Then it’s just a matter of reaching out to them via the contact form.

And you’re off to a life full of sensuality, pleasure, confidence, love, and fulfillment!